Missing someone isn’t about how long it’s been since you have last seen them or the amount of time it has been since you last talked. It’s about that very moment when you are doing something and you wish that they were right there with you.(via fearlessknightsandfairytales)
I have not read it because that would be directly contributing the to the financial stability of the publishing company and the author, which I don’t want to do. I have read enough excerpts and summaries online to know enough about it. It is a completely inaccurate and toxic portrayal of BDSM relationships, which are about safety and consent. In Fifty Shades there is no representation of safe words, consent, overall physical safety or mental well-being. It is all about the dominance of a twisted, borderline-psychopathic man over an innocent girl. A lot of people will retort with “but she wanted sex, she pursued him, etc. so therefore she isn’t innocent”. Well yes, maybe she did, but he also apparently put a tracking device in her phone and stalked her to win her affections. Nobody ASKS for abuse, and that’s what the entire book is about. The whole concept sickens me and I have had dozens of people (friends, extended relatives, classmates, etc.) try to convince me that it’s “not that bad” and that I’m “blowing it out of proportion” but I don’t think it’s healthy to have such a toxic and patriarchal book circulating the world and gaining so much attention. The world is already a patriarchal society that prioritizes the needs and desires of a man over the safety and well-being of a woman. I mean hell, women can’t even get birth control without a struggle in this country, do you really think people are looking out for us if they won’t even give us potentially life saving-medication? This book and the upcoming movie will only encourage young women (and women of all ages) to remain in the mindset that their goal in life is to please a man and allow themselves to be dominated unwillingly for the pleasure of their partner. It completely strips away any autonomy or independence of the female character and tells girls that you don’t have a right to say no. It’s a complete and total perpetuation of rape culture, a culture that is so prevalent in our society already. We need to be writing books that empower women, not books that remind them what society has told them again and again, that they’re only sexual play things and nothing more. Women are capable of so much and this book throws all of that to the side and only focuses on women as submissive creatures, which is not what women are. It’s also very insulting to true subs in BDSM relationships, who are generally very independent and able to take control. Being submissive in a sexual relationship is not about giving up your autonomy for the pleasure of another. A sub is just as in control as the dom. That’s the who goddamn point of a safe word. But no, apparently we can’t represent perfectly healthy sexual play between two consenting partners because that wouldn’t sell books. It’s bullshit and I really hope none of my friends go to see the movie because I sure as hell won’t and I think you have to have a lot of nerve to go see a movie that directly dehumanizes your gender.
Basically, I really fucking hate it.
So you know that offer of getting the entire Sims 2 Collection for free? [x]
Yeah, well I woke up at 7am to check on my download of it and started to play it once I saw it was done. I have never ever played the Sims games before but have heard it’s addicting.
So basically I sat on my ass and attempted to learn and play the game for 10 hrs with breaks of “holy crap, that’s what time it is?!?!?”
I can now say I truly am addicted and it’s been a long long time since a game has pulled me in where I had no concept of time.
And if you want to download it, you have until July 31st.
you know, in case you needed another way to procrastinate :P